I've been dodging creating a post about love, just because I think the topic has been exhaustively discussed since the beginning of time...but all the same I couldn't help myself and here I am.
You can talk about love till you're blue in the face but still, when the time comes, and you fall in love, it won't be anything like what you imagined and idealized it to be.
And the more you try to rationalize the feeling, the more you diminish its value.
Everyone has their own notion of what love and don't worry, I'm not about to bore you with mine. As the title says, what I would like to know if whether everlasting, true love does exist, especially these days when flippancy has infiltrated our lives like a cancer.
I think that most of the time the driving force behind people coupling up is fear.
Fear of ending up alone at the end of your life and feeling like you weren't worth shit.
Fear that you won't be able to fill that big black hole within. That emptiness can only be filled by you and you alone. I think when we expect relationships to bring a sense of completeness and it fails to do so then, we assume that the 'so called love' has dissipated and the relationship has nothing to offer you....and BANG.....another colossal breakup to add to the repertoire.
Is love real? Or is it a form of escapism? We're afraid of being left to our own devices so we lose ourselves in someone else.
Is love real or do we just delude ourselves into thinking that we are truly, madly, deeply in love so that we wouldn't have to feel so small and insignificant?
For me, love can only be true if there are no expectations and no conditions. No ulterior motives. Only then can it be real....otherwise its all just one big bloody masquerade.
postscript: to all the couples, don't mean to rain on your parade or diminish the beauty of what you've got.
7 comments:
Very insightful...i do agree with your conclusion i must say
I read somewhere... None is as brave as he who dares to be alone..or something to that effect
no expectaion and no condition huh...sounds good...but i heard that there are only 2 types of motivation for anyone to do anything..to gain pleasure or to avoid pain..how do u think this fits in karen?
ill be the first to admit i don't know much abt this...but if you can love and yet stand not to be loved in return....sounds pretty good to me...(but i guess it will really really suck huh)
P.S You got me hooked..keep blogging
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None is as brave as he who dars to be alone..... I like that very much D. Yeah I agree with the types of motivation. so, basically it all comes down it being about us. Altruistic love???? Myth!
Hahah....D, I don't know jack about love either. What I know is based on the everything around me. I've yet to be in a relationship, don't want to be in one (blog explains all)
unrequited love would suck ...sure... but think of it this way, sometimes you can love someone and they won't even know it, they might be at the other end of the world, but since when was loving a bad ting. and who knows, someone else somewhere else is probably thinking of you as well. The power of thought.
Ooh, please dicuss the thing about girls and apple trees because I think you'd make a good job of it(sort of relates to love)
"Women are like apples on trees, the best ones are on the top of the tree. The men don't want to reach for the good ones because they are afraid of falling and don't want to get hurt. Instead, they just get the rotten apples from the ground that aren't so good but easy. So, the apples at the top think something is wrong with them, when in reality they are amazing. They just have to wait for the right man to come along, the one who's brave enough to climb all the way to the top becuase they value quality."
Do you think that's true or not? Or is it too love-ish to interest you(I know you don't want to overcover the subject)?
hi, zeazle weasel kneazle , who are you ?? do I know ...just curious is all?? hmmmmmm yeah the apple tree analogy about women is a nice one....at least its a form of hope for all those girls who have yet to find true love.
I used to have this idealized notion of love and all that jazz, but with the way things are these days..... i don't know that it exists in its purest form...hence i'm gradually morphing into this cynical cretin....i'm selling the stuff...just not buying it....if you understand....hope that answers you're question? ...ish.... take it easy;)
Love will never exist in its purest form. We will never let it. But if you think about it... thats what makes the world go round.
Beverly Clark (character out of "Shall We Dance") on why people get married (related topic!):-
"We need a witness to our lives. There's a billion people on the planet... I mean, what does any one life really mean? But in a marriage, you're promising to care about everything. The good things, the bad things, the terrible things, the mundane things... all of it, all of the time, every day. You're saying 'Your life will not go unnoticed because I will notice it. Your life will not go un-witnessed because I will be your witness'."
.....that's a pathetic excuse to get married.
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